Finding out you’re unexpectedly pregnant can feel hard enough on its own. But if your partner is also pressuring you to have an abortion, you may feel like you’re carrying the weight of someone else’s expectations in addition to your own fears.
Perhaps he’s telling you that you’re not ready to be parents. Maybe he’s worried about finances, school, or your future together. Or perhaps he’s giving you an ultimatum, threatening to leave if you continue the pregnancy.
If you’re feeling pressured, it’s important to get some distance to ensure you’re making your own decision based on facts and your own desires, and not out of fear.
An abortion is a significant decision with physical and emotional implications. You deserve the time, space, and support to consider your options carefully and make a decision that’s truly your own. Read on to learn important things to keep in mind, or contact Metro Women’s Center, where you’ll find a safe space to talk and get answers.
Your Feelings Matter Too
When someone you love has a strong opinion, it’s easy to begin questioning your own.
You may find yourself thinking, “Maybe he’s right,” even though something inside you isn’t settled.
Take a moment to ask yourself:
- If no one else were influencing me, what would I want?
- Am I making this decision because it’s what I believe is best, or because I’m afraid of losing my relationship?
- Have I given myself enough time to understand all of my options?
Your partner’s feelings matter, but so do yours.
A healthy relationship allows both people to express their concerns without resorting to pressure, manipulation, or threats. You deserve to have your voice heard and your questions answered before making a permanent decision.
Find Someone Who Will Support You Without Pressure
You don’t have to navigate this situation alone.
If your partner is pressuring you, consider talking with someone who will listen without trying to make the decision for you.
That might be:
- A trusted friend or family member.
- A pastor or mentor.
- A counselor.
- A pregnancy center advocate.
Having someone to talk with can help you sort through your thoughts, ask questions, and process your emotions.
If your partner is threatening you, controlling your choices, or making you feel unsafe, know that this isn’t healthy or loving behavior. Your safety and well-being matter, and it’s okay to seek additional support if you need it.
The people who truly care about you will want you to make an informed decision, not one made out of fear.
Metro Women’s Center Is Here to Support You
If you’re feeling pressured to have an abortion but you’re not sure what you want to do, Metro Women’s Center is here for you.
We offer free, confidential pregnancy tests and referrals for free, limited obstetrical ultrasounds in a compassionate, judgment-free environment. Our caring team is here to answer your questions, explain your pregnancy, and provide accurate information about all of your options so you can make a decision that’s right for you.
You deserve the opportunity to be heard, supported, and informed.
Contact Metro Women’s Center today to schedule your confidential appointment. You’re not alone in this. We’re here for you.